Wanting Change? But ……
- Are there things in your life that need to change?
- Are you living in your comfort zone but wanting more out of life?
- How often do you think and talk about change but never start?
- How often do you step out of your comfort zone and go after what’s important to you?
- How often do you implement a change to then fall back into your old ways weeks, months and even years later?
Change is an inevitable part of everyday life. Small changes often go unnoticed as they occur within our comfort zone. However:
- What happens when you ‘re faced with making changes outside your comfort zone?
- What excuses, avoidances and stories do you use and tell yourself that prevents you from making changes?
Let’s take a look at some examples:
- I’m not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough (all the I’m not…)
- I’m too old or too young (all the I’m too this or too that…)
- What if I make a mistake
- What if I fail
- People will see my weakness
- I’ll give it a go but it won’t work
- It will never work, it won’t change anything
- What if my family, friends, colleagues reject me and my ideas
- What if people don’t like me
- I don’t want to get hurt again
- I don’t want to be taken advantage off
- It’s not the right time (when I lose weight, when I have more knowledge and skills in…. when I have more energy… when…)
- I’m too busy, I don’t have time, wasting time doing other things (procrastinating)
- Being labelled as outspoken, trouble maker, the failure/loser
- If I change I will lose ……… I don’t want to be alone…
Fear is the most common emotion that lies underneath our excuses, avoidances and stories. If not addressed, they can manifest in the body as physical pain and illnesses.
So where do our excuses, avoidances, stories originate from?
Our childhood has a significant influence on how we respond to change and being out of our comfort zone. Between the ages 0-7 children learn how to think and behave from significant others including parents, siblings, teachers and playmates. From 7 to early teenage years they model what they have learnt from others that are then carried into adulthood. As an adult, many of these learnt patterns no longer work and therefore new patterns need to be learnt. They can also be passed down through generations as well as develop from any type of difficult experiences encountered throughout life.
You may like to ask yourself:
- How was change role-modeled to you by your parents? Was change seen as a positive or negative thing? Was it something to embrace or fear?
- As a child did you feel supported and encouraged to explore and try new things?
- Were you told if you’re going to do something then ‘do it right’ or don’t do it at all?
- What level of self-confidence, self-worth, self-value was role modelled to you at home, school, friends, societal and media?
Knowing their origins can assist you to take back your power, become fully responsible for your life and start taking action towards creating positive change. This doesn’t mean you constantly have to challenge and push yourself 24/7 as this can lead to more stress. It’s about the willingness to think and do things differently, to try something new and not expect you’ll get it right first time.
So how can kinesiology help?
At Brunswick Health our Kinesiologist Kerrie Stevens enjoys working with clients who find embracing ‘change’ a little daunting! Kinesiology can help identify where in the body you are holding stress around change, where it comes from and what techniques are needed to release the stress. Whether you want to make small or big changes in your life kinesiology is a great modality to get to the root cause of your fear around change.
There is a level of discomfort and vulnerability that goes hand in hand when implementing changes. But once you start to release your outdated excuses, avoidances and stories that hinder you, you’ll find making changes less stressful and these changes literally become ‘life changing’.
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